Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Year End Holidays

At the very last minute, i.e. today, I have planned an impromptu getaway. Well it's more for the hubby. He has been so bogged down with work and getting busier by the day, and mentally too exhausted, so I decided to take him on a getaway. All he knows is we will be hotel hopping (3 to be exact). 

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He managed to get leave for 3 days next week. I on the other hand, still need to carry my laptop and check my phone, but it's all great. We will be in KL city the first day, then driving up to PD for one night, and back to KL city again for a night at a hotel with buffet breakfast and dinner all in! Well,
the stays in KL are thanks to my brother for giving me a booklet of Dorsett Prestige Club vouchers! It's time to use a couple of it! 

Oh I am so in the holiday mood! Yippie! 

Ok ok, back to work now :)  I have a deadline to meet by tomorrow *gulp* 


Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Working again

Aaahhh yes, hello guys and gals. It's been really long since the last I sat and typed a post. Well, I have started working again. Remember the freelance thingy I was doing? Well, it evolved to a full time job, 7 days a week. Yes, Mondays to Fridays, 10am to 5pm and Saturdays and Sundays, 11am to 6pm! Haha  

I have started my own company officially. Proper registration etc all done. I am no longer just doing work as and when I please. Now it's serious work and I have deadlines to meet. Above all, I still work from home. My kitchen counter is officially my work area. I try to get it cleared before the hubs get home. Imagine coming home from a long day at work, battling through traffic, to a home that's messy! 

It's a lot of hard work, and I don't get  benefits as compared to working with a company, but heck, it's way more rewarding. The satisfaction that I get out of it, and knowing that my hard work is rightfully paid off, is an amazing feeling. 

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Hoping to find time to continue my passion for blogging as well. One thing about working from home is that you tend to do house chores too, and at times it can become too overwhelming that I lose track of time. Work, house chores, ad hoc meetings with clients... 

Honestly, right now, I am in the holiday mood! Haha

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Wednesday, October 22, 2014

The question is why?

My thoughts here may be very provoking... but really, the question is why. 

We have been brought up with the thinking that we are not allowed to celebrate any festivities for 1 year from the day someone passes away. I have never really observed such things probably because I never had anyone so close to me passing away. So when NanaJi passed away, the automatic response I give people when they ask if I am celebrating so and so, is “no”. 

I did a quick search on the net for such tradition / custom / law, yes, there are religions that have strict rules to abide by. But almost in all my readings, it states that it’s to give time to the family to grief. 

But having overcome my grief, I am beginning to question this bereavement custom / tradition. If we are not suppose to celebrate anything, then I was wrong to celebrate my graduation from NLP, I am wrong to be happy, I was wrong to transform myself into the v 2.0 that I am now, I was wrong to invite friends over, I was wrong to go out for dinners/lunches and meet up with friends, I was wrong in a lot of things that I did once I came out of my grief. 

Then I ask myself has NanaJi ever not go to the Gurdwara during festive days because someone has passed away? No, I don’t remember. I only remember he is always there, in the Gurdwara. That was his way of celebrating any occasion; spending time in HIS home on earth. Well now I am sure he is having a gala time in HIS real home in heavens above!

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

♪ The Happy Song ♫

It might seem crazy what I'm about to say
Sunshine she's here, you can take a break
I'm a hot air balloon that could go to space
With the air, like I don't care baby by the way

Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I'm happy
Clap along if you feel like that's what you wanna do

Here come bad news talking this and that, yeah,
Well, give me all you got, and don't hold it back, yeah,
Well, I should probably warn you I'll be just fine, yeah,
No offense to you, don't waste your time
Here's why

Bring me down... can't nothing...
Bring me down... my level's too high...
Bring me down... can't nothing...
Bring me down, I said (let me tell you now)

This song has been my lift me up song before my NLP. And today, I realize, it's all NLP. Haha 
Really, nothing should ever effect you. As I type this, I am in so much pain - periods. I had two months pain free periods and this is just back to square one. Well, probably because I was even late for 4 days, and my system went into shock when I had to jump in deep pool in my swimming class last week! Haha 

Well, I can choose to be upset about it or like right now, I decided to listen to the Happy Song and type. I may have to just lie down for a while and curl in bed to ease the pain, but all in due time. It's not like I haven't experienced this excruciating pain before. I am just trying a different approach :)

Enjoy!


Sunday, October 5, 2014

Mother oh in law

Yes, the universal issue / topic / problem! I have had my share of this issue for a long long time. Well from the day I got married and walked into the house to the very second last day of my NLP, Sept 13th 2014, which was also her birthday. 

Hubby wasn't too keen in bringing her out to dinner on that day because well, every time we used to, I will end up feeling upset, or annoyed to the very least. And he didn't want to spoil my NLP state especially since I was going to graduate the next day. Anyway, I insisted that we should go out for dinner because it will mean something to her. I mean, c'mon, we all want to feel special on that very special day right? 

And so we went to dinner at Madam Kwan and thereafter we went to Starbucks. Yes, my MIL enjoys having coffee from Starbucks too. Let me just sum it up for you on how it went - hubby almost fainted in disbelief that his wife and mother were chatting, laughing, sharing jokes, taking photos, and hugged. 

What was different? 

Me. 

Everything that has happened in my life is a consequences of my choices. No one is to be blamed for it. It's a choice I have made all along. Like the trainer replied to one of my statement "I have been sucked dry emotionally, mentally and worse of all financially ever since getting married" - all she said to me was "It was YOUR choice. You chose to be the one to spear head your marriage, your renovations, building your own home. You chose not to wait, but you chose to get things done. So why are you complaining?" - Ouch.

I am not saying that I will have an awesome relationship and bond with my MIL, but I know that I will be very "neutral" inside when I see her from now on. Not how I used to be the moment I even hear her name, voice, or even look at her - so angry and agitated. Well I used to feel the same even from being just at the gate at my parents house! Hah! :p

Saturday, October 4, 2014

I AM beautiful

I have never said those words to myself. Never. Never said I am beautiful. I hated the mirror. Only until and after NLP, I looked at myself in the mirror. Really looked. And the person that I saw, isn't bad at all. 

I remember during class, we came to the topic of limiting beliefs. Oh I had so many! I volunteered to be the "client" on the "change chair" (The trainer gave the name of the chair next to her when doing demo on processes the "change chair"). When she asked me what was my limiting belief - I said I am not beautiful. Everyone in the class went "What?", "Are you crazy?", "For real *my name*?".... Haha And so I went up to the chair with my limiting belief... and when I came down back to my seat, I was smiling from ear to ear. Wow, the feeling of that disgusting, not nice to look at, all gone. The weight of it, just lifted and flew away. 

The next morning, I looked at the mirror. I actually looked at the person staring back at me. The next few days, I looked a little longer. Examining that person. And on the last day of my NLP, I smiled looking at that person, and told myself, I am beautiful. I took a selfie, and I just kept smiling. No filter used, just me. 

And here the old me used to let others define my beauty. Define how I think I look.
Everyone is beautiful. If you see beauty in you, you will see beauty in everyone and everything else. Well, that is if your conscious and unconscious mind is in harmony of course!

And on that note, I leave you with an awesome speech by Dananjaya H. "I see something in you".... 


Yes, I see something in you. Yes you. I see a beautiful soul inside.

Friday, October 3, 2014

Twitter

I have only explored Facebook. I tried once to get on to the tweeting world, but gave up after my first attempt. Now that I will be offering Facebook Management as part of my business services, I have decided to explore further and get the hang of Twitter. So if my client wants me to do Twitter for them, I can say yes.

I've been reading FB vs Twitter, and I always thought it's the same. But what I have gathered is that if you want to share something in real time, then Twitter it is. People say that Facebook is for connecting with the people you went to school with and Twitter is for people you wished you had gone to school with.

So old school kan? At the end of 2014, I have decided to use Twitter. Wait, learn to use Twitter. 
So, any tips and tricks? 

https://twitter.com/JustMeTheMrs




Thursday, October 2, 2014

An online friend who became a real life friend

Have you ever thought that someone you know online, will end up becoming a real life friend? Well, I am so glad to have found a true friend in the wonderful soul behind The Missus Blogs. We met for the first time about a month before she was going to go off to Australia. What timing we thought, but nevertheless we were glad we met. Finally! It was so nice to be able to sit and talk and share stuff which we knew about each other, but yet, it's not the same when we talk about it. 

Yes, hubs and I did meet her briefly (the real first time) when her dad passed away. There was just something in me that told me I must pay my first and last respect. Probably I lost NanaJi and I knew exactly how she felt. The closeness she had with her dad. I remember my bestie and her mom came to pay their first and last respect to NanaJi in his own home, and it meant something to me. 

We met another time for lunch before she left, and I wished we had met sooner. I wished now that we could have some girls time out. Yes yes, especially now that I have done NLP, I am so different towards meeting up, chatting, keeping in touch! 

And I cannot forget, both times we met, she gave me so many gifts! She just knew what I would use and will begin to use... Yes, yes, if you are reading this, I am using the make up remover too! I have started wearing makeup! Haha

As I type this, I can smell the shampoo scent lingering in my hair! Ahhh fresh! 

Thank you babe, for being a friend. And thank you for all the gifts again!! :) 
*hugs*

Next when we meet, we have to take photo(s)!!

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Life changer

Yes, Neuro Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy is life changing! 

I walked in Day 1 feeling the way I always have deep within. I have been having ah-ha moments from that very first day itself. I broke down a lot. Didn't know I was such an emotional baby. Haha Well, yeah, I used to be the rough and tough and the only time I really sank into sadness is when NanaJi passed away. 

Anyway, Day 9 I walked out a totally different person. A true version 2.0 of myself. It's amazing what this course can do for you. So yes, it may be costly, but it's your choice. Whether you want a change or not. Whether you want to have these tools with you that you can use for the rest of your life. Yes, rest of your life! 

It has been the best decision I have made for myself. Over the next few days, I shall share my experience. But if you are keen to know more asap, then just drop me an email.

Friday, September 5, 2014

Just Me, The Mrs: Version 2.0

Yes, after being in hiatus after a long time, I come with a surprise - I am taking up a course that will change my life. That will give me the Me, version 2.0. That will make me feel the way I feel when I go on holidays, but all the time! Make me learn to let go of negative emotions. Make me know what I want in life. 

Being positive is one thing, being consistently positive is another. I have read The Secret, The Magic... it's all good, but I realized I still kept slipping back into depression. Heck, I've even been going to the psychiatrist! There must be a root cause to this. I am always agitated around some people. I am always angry when I am with them. I have no self esteem. Bla bla bla...

Tomorrow I start a new journey. A journey to Neuro Linguistic Programming. Good luck to me!

Thursday, September 4, 2014

Tips on getting an evening dress

I am not a function person. Yeah, well, pretty obvious innit especially to those who have been following my blog. Knowing how much I "love" to socialize. Haha Anyway, who knows, things may change? One thing we keep getting invitation for is weddings. These days wedding dinner attire is no longer the traditional attire. It has gotten more modernized. People wear evening dresses to dinners etc. I used to have one evening dress long ago, and that was it. Now I have none. 

Did you know there are three types of evening dresses which it seems women should have in their closet to wear elegantly to the lovely celebration with style and stay within your budget.

The floral patterned evening dress
This type of evening dress is suitable to worn to weddings especially to a garden themed one. It not only portrays a casual appearance but also exudes your feminine personality. If the wedding is done in a hotel or a wedding hall during the night, opt for a long floral evening dress for a more sophisticated look.




Black evening dress 
Black was once prohibited and unacceptable to be worn to weddings but now is a fine choice to wear to evening weddings. Women could perk up their black evening dress with a gold clutch and dangling earrings for an exclusive look at the wedding. You could also re-use the black evening dress to other weddings by pairing it with a statement necklace or wrap a belt around your waist without having to go over your budget. Accessorize your black evening dress and make it look brand new and refined.

Now this is something I like personally. Black dress. It not only makes me look thinner (ha ha ha), but I can accessorize differently for different occasions. 





Pastel evening dress 
This is the most common evening dress which women normally choose to wear to a wedding as it not only is appropriate but softens your look. Pastel colours of evening dresses gives the whole wedding a nice feel and the pretty hue of pastels are ideal to be paired with a nude pair of ballerina flats or a box clutch.  Opt for a fitted waist or a mi-length hem are it can be worn to different types of wedding theme without looking out of place. 


If you are wondering where to get the beautiful pieces of evening dress, check out ZALORA as it offers you a wide choice of dresses online and you could have it delivered straight to your home.

At the same time, like my Facebook page and you shall be in for a treat sometime soon *hint hint* 

Disclaimer: This is a guest post.

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

No no, not pregnant :)

Sorry guyz, I have been so caught up with parents, hubby, home, then I have totally ignored some of your emails, and even some of the comments here.

No, no.... I am not pregnant. It turned out to be a chemical pregnancy. Was pregnant just for a week I guess, or even lesser. Well, what else is new right?

I wasn't so upset but this time, hubby was. I guess he now has that wanting to be a dad feeling.

Friday, June 6, 2014

92 years old

Exactly 92 years ago, You were born
No celebrations nor gifts were ever requested
Greetings were nevertheless accepted

Happy Bithday NanaJi
From now on You get to celebrate with Him
Love you so much
Miss you even more!

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Non stop appointments

Ahh what can I say, the hospital appointments is back to back again. From my mom to my dad. When I think that ahhh June onwards there won't be many appointments, mom's op gets postponed one month after another. Now it's in July. Dad on the other hand, has gone into the super low moods of depression and he can't come out of it. So the only option is Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT). We took him to our psychiatrist and when we went to see him the second time, he arranged for ECT to be done at Selayang Hospital. 

So basically these two weeks Selayang Hospital would be an every other day visit. Sigh..

Seriously I am on "standby" for them. My days depend on their schedule. 

Sunday, June 1, 2014

Pregnancy scare

Yes, I have to put it as scare. The thing is we have already accepted the fact of being a childless couple. We are happy just being the two of us. And now, I suddenly have a tiny bit of a scare. I think it's just my hormones gone hay wire. Well, it's too early to say anything. Period is due next week.

Hubby jokingly tells me when I tell him how I feel, "I think you're pregnant". I will say no, I can't get pregnant, remember?

I do not want to go through the emotional roller coaster again. TTC was never brought up especially after I abruptly stopped my hormone tablets. I stopped all supplements too. We have decided not to let TTC rule our happiness as a couple.

Friday, May 23, 2014

Mesothelioma Cancer Awareness

I was approached by Heather via email asking if I'd share with my readers on the above. I replied to her and said why not? It's the month of National Cancer Research.  

NanaJi had cancer too. It doesn't matter what type of cancer you have, cancer is cancer. So let's spread the word together. I watched a movie a few weeks back, Jai Ho and the highlight of it is a chain system that works on the concept that everyone should help three people and should ask them to help three more people and so on. 

Our blogs reach out to many - we all have our own group of readers. So imagine if one blogs about it, then the other does it, and for all you know, there might be someone out there with this rare cancer. Can you imagine what the information can do for her/him? 

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To read more on Mesothelioma, please visit http://www.mesothelioma.com/

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Road Trip - Final Destination

From Johor, we couldn't decide if we should go to Port Dickson or Melaka. Heck, we even thought of coming back to KL and just checking in to a hotel for the heck of it. Haha

Well, we ended up in Port Dickson. We did not book any rooms and it was already the weekend. We went hotel hopping in search for a place to stay. It was already late evening. We had already crossed off Avillion especially after this experience. We went to PD Waterfront, fully booked. Selesa Beach Resort - oh boy, even from the look of the reception area, it was a no no. We even checked out Merlin hotel but ermmm well, wasn't for us. So yes, we ended up in Avillion Admiral Cove. I must say, although it was under the same management as Avillion, but it was a very good experience. 

We stopped at Burger King to refuel ourselves













The view from the room. This was early morning.

View from the room

Makan makan makan

A bit disappointing





This was in front of PD Waterfront.
We actually bought a personal pizza and sat here and ate. Another first time!






There are benches to sit, overlooking the sea



Our dinner at Sea View Restaurant.
Awesome food.



Ahhhh 


I woke up early on Sunday, and here's a photo I took from the bed itself. 
Our lunch at Double Queue Thai Restaurant


Yes, we can really eat!


Double Queue Thai Cuisine PD Waterfront