Monday, March 23, 2015

What the world has come to

A conversation with my sister in law today led me to write this... 

I seriously can't believe how selfish and low people have become. People as in family and friends. How people talk about you behind your back and in front of you, they not only praise you, but put you on a throne. In return for what? They probably sleep in peace knowing that they have hurt the feelings of another. The more the hurt, the more peaceful the sleep. 

Since my NLP, I had decided to be more open and "out there" - with friends and family alike. We have been joining in the cousins get togethers, etc. Letting these people into our little bubble. Our own very private space. 

In the end what happened? We realized that our perception at the beginning of these people turned out to be true. They are not worth our time and energy and oh, money too. I personally realized that it was a mistake to let anyone in our little bubble. I took it as a learning experience. 

Today when this topic came up with my SIL, I just couldn't help but pour it out on my blog. 

About two weeks ago, I restricted almost 90% of the people on my Facebook. "A bold move" my husband said. But for some reason, I felt it was right. How these people tend to judge us just because we share. Seriously? So now, only Public posts can be viewed by them. Hah!

I couldn't believe my ears when an uncle commented that why we share where we go and that we are loaded with money because we travel! I almost wanted to throw my hot tea at his face! What the fuck man? I am sorry, did we ask any money from you?

And another person said in such a jealous tone that our photos together look happy. Huh? So we are supposed to be sad and miserable?

Oh and the best part was when I got to know from a cousin SIL that a distant aunt - who isn't related to me directly, and who isn't even in Peninsular Msia, can specifically call her sister, who is an aunt, just to announce that hubby and I are in Cameron Highlands for dinner! We are traveling and can spend so much money to go to CH for dinner?! Huh? Do they even know how we ended up in CH? But wait, why bother? People like these will just keep believing whatever they want to and honestly, I don't give a fuck anymore. 

Can we live without a social circle? Of course we can. All we need is a few good people in our lives. We have had enough experience to know who they are. My SIL and brother are definitely the first people. A handful of others who we have come to love. Surprisingly, they are not even immediate family or supposedly besties. 

To you people who sleep in peace by hurting others, intentionally or not, may karma hit you so bad, that the day you have to sleep for good, you will suffer so bad that even God may just close an eye upon you and may everyone you think who loves you, leaves you to die miserably alone. 

Ahhh, feels so good now! 

Ta! 

8 comments:

  1. TM, congratulation. A bold move yes, but necessary - remove the negativity from our life :-)

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    1. Thank you ST! Yes, we don't need the negativity! Shuuuu it away!!

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  2. Hi Sis... I've been your silent reader for the past 1.5 years and decided to drop a comment today after reading this post... I know how it feels... Been there too... My best friend betrayed me and broke the secrets to my hubs and lead him to initiate a divorce... Sad part is she nicely spiced up the story and my hubs never want to confront tho he once told me she's a gossip queen... Me being me... Always with the concept never judge a book by its cover... Haha.... I got close to her tho many people that I knew in east Malaysia warned me not to be close with her because of her dirty mouth... Karma will surely hit her someday...

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    1. Hello there! Thank you for being a reader and thank you for taking the time to post a comment. I guess we all have encountered such people in our lives. I do still believe that everyone crosses your path for a reason - but sometimes I just can't fathom their intentions. Anyway, take care of yourself, and remember, you are awesome! Never change for anyone! It's your ex husband's loss!

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  3. Well said, Mrs! I do empathise and I hope you find your peace away from all these small-minded people who don't deserve a look-in. Live and enjoy your life, babe!

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    1. Thank you my dear! I will, live & enjoy life! People will always have something to say. It's my life at the end of the day.

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  4. There, that last sentence there before you telling how good you felt. Was a cliche. No, cliche isn't quite right, it's more like a deja vu. It felt really good after cursing, like really. But after awhile I decided to accept the apology that I never really asked of. I felt much better. Absorb the hurt to your bone marrow... you will then not feel any hurt at all.

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    1. Noooo, don't absorb the hurt! "Swish" it away! Do not, and I mean, do not ever absorb any sort of negativity. If you have to say it out loud, do it, and move on. But never absorb. Forgiving someone without the person actually apologising is fine. But if you forgive, then let it go. Don't absorb negative energy tau! Hugs!

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