Tuesday, May 5, 2015

24/7

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We have always spoken that it would be damn cool to be working from home and owning our own business. When you want something, doesn't necessarily mean you will still want it when you get it. It was all great the first week or so, but then, 24/7 being with each other... is no joke. It took me some adjustments. I have a routine that I follow, the chores, the work etc. Now having hubs home, I chose to let those routine be gone. Which was obviously my doing. So now, we are slowly getting into a routine, together.  Hopefully in the next few days, we will be into a nice workable routine and our days won't be so chaotic anymore. It is not that we are busy all the time, it is just that our routines between each other were chaos. This made the days just go by us. Next thing we know, like now, it's already 5.45pm! 

Art, in itself, is an attempt to bring order out of chaos. - Stephen Sondheim

Monday, May 4, 2015

Words of "Wisdom"

A few days ago I was at my mother's. She got rather upset that her nephew is having another baby and I on the other hand, couldn't contain my joy. Mistake 1. 

I was so excited waiting for the birth of their baby and I went on blabbling about it. Mistake 2. 

My grandma then looked at me and said with folded hands, "I hope you will be blessed with a child soon". And in all seriousness, I said "Oh God, no please. I don't want a child. I am content and happy". Big Mistake No. 3. 

Then my mom asked how could I say such a thing. I replied "Ma, this is a choice I make. I used to want one badly, but look at what not we went through and furthermore after my NLP, I realized that was just what society wants out of me". Huge Mistake No. 4. 

Both the ladies to my dismay, started crying. My mom in between her sobs, said that I am depriving my husband from being a father and my mother in law from being a grandmother. I replied saying that's between us (husband and wife). None of anyone's business. Mistake No. 5.

She even mentioned about her niece who is also pregnant, just after a year of marriage. She admitted to having a pang of jealousy when her sister in law called to inform. I was a little taken aback. Jealous? Really? 

Anyway, she still didn't give up, and said that she wants a grandchild from me. She said she wants someone to call her Nani. I jokingly replied, "Oh, that's it? Sure, no problem, I will get my niece who now calls her Dadi, to call her Nani for a week!". Final mistake.

Then she said something that was painful at that point of time "You will never know the value of a mother only and until you become one". Ouch. 

Advance Happy Mother's Day to all women out there. 
We are all a mother in some ways, be it to our very own child, a niece, a nephew, 
to any child for that matter. We are born with motherly instincts. 
We just nurture the instincts and let it take charge when we carry a child.